Goodbye 2018 - Part 2

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31st December 2018 - Though I was supposed to blog last Friday, I decided to keep the best for the last.

Mentioned in the previous blog post, I'm going to share my TOP 10 lessons in 2018 plus New Year's resolutions, In shaa Allah. (Btw, I might rank it in order but all ten are important to me for the past year.)

Lesson #10 It's okay to let go of/stay away from things which you feel are toxic to you. E.g. friendship, items, etc. Even though you feel so emotionally attached to it, let go and you will find your heart more at ease. And if you have to block people, do so and don't feel bad because only you know how you feel.

Lesson #09 Do not feel guilty if you want to be selfish and make yourself happy. However, this only applies when the situation is right. I mean, please be aware that the world does not revolve around you but at the same time if you need to make a decision between your happiness and others, always choose your own and make yourself a top priority. If you do not take care of yourself and make yourself happy, who else will? And if you can't make yourself happy, what makes you so sure you can make others happy too?

Lesson #08 The easiest way to shut a person who keeps talking about the bad things about you behind your back or slanders you, is to still be good to them. Don't fight fire with fire and don't stoop to their level. Not worth it. You do you and you do better.

Lesson #07 Depressed or sad? Find something that makes you joyful. If you love a Ben & Jerry's ice cream, just buy a tub and eat it all by yourself. If you love to have a facial spa, go and have it. Don't stop yourself or think twice or thrice because always remember you deserve it and make it a habit to pamper and reward yourself. #SelfLove Lesson #06 Pushing yourself hard is a good thing but at the same time have your well-deserved rest. Do not aim too high at the same time have realistic goals so that you do not expect so much which might, in the end, disappoint you.

Lesson #05 Always always always take your time and go at your own pace. Life is not a competition and the only one person you need to compete with is your own self. Who you were yesterday, last month, last year - that is who you need to compete with to be a better person. Lesson #04 DO NOT compare yourself with others. Doing that is actually a bad habit which kills you slowly - mentally. That is how you feed your negative traits like your insecurities.

(Btw, being insecure is ok. Being TOO INSECURE, it's very obvious if you have that trait... I might post a blog post about this because HAHA I've been observing something that I might share near future.)

Lesson #03 Hardships are not meant to destroy you. If you treat hardships from a positive perspective, you will grow into a better person after those challenges, In shaa Allah. Even how difficult it will get, take time to reflect and think about it and see the positive side of it - what can you learn from it? What can you do better?

Lesson #02 TAWAKKAL - at the end of the day, this is your ultimate intention after doing everything. Throughout 2018, I always remind myself that "If I get it, it's the best for me. If not, it's also the best for me." "If it happens, it's the best for me. If not, it's also the best for me" And alhamdulillah, so far, there was a reason or blessing in disguise for every acceptance and rejections and all the situation that happened this year.

Lesson #01 One of my 2018 goals was to be more positive and I'm glad I found my own mechanism to be positive even though my environment around me was SUPER toxic. How to manage all the negative traits? So whenever I feel so toxic or negative... 1. I try to be alone. No phone, no technology and no one around me. Just be in my room alone.

2. Sit down/lie down and just close your eyes (sometimes I do this with a mask on) 3. Talk to yourself (This helps me so much because I tend to organise my mind better) 4. Ask yourself why are you feeling that way? What is the cause? How can I change my mindset so that I feel more at ease? How do I change the perspective of things? 5. Don't stop thinking until you really find a solution and feel at ease. Because once you bring that negativity out to the world especially by social media, it becomes a disease. It spreads and that's how toxicity works in a community. Dzikir or take wudhu if you need to. And sleep if you feel really tired about thinking about it.

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My goals for 2019 would be a simple one: CAREER & ACHIEVEMENTS Self-improvement will always be a lifetime process so that will be in my every year resolution but 2019 would be just mainly focusing on career and achievements. With lots of ideas and plans in mind, I hope 2019 would be a more productive year. With that being said, I apologize in advance if I wouldn't be so socially active in 2019 onwards. Also, to post pictures in blog posts from 2019 onwards... 2018 have been super memorable. A year I've grown and learnt so much. I'm glad that even though I've been through so much this year, I still managed to think that 2018 was really amazing in so many ways.

Till the next post this Friday, I pray that 2019 would be filled with more joy and laughter and pure happiness. No expectations for 2019 but I just hope everything will end in a positive note♥

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