Brain-y act

" When your ears hear one thing but your eyes see another, use your brain"

Wanted to talk about the whole Vivy-Yusof-pregnancy article that was viral because quite a lot of people did not actually agree with what she said. But before I do so, let me share a story when I was a teen. As a teen, I was someone so naïve. Yes, super naïve. When someone told me about a story or something random, I would trust the person 100% (no doubts)even though it was obviously so FAKE or untrue. I still would believe without using my brain. I had this mindset of always taking in every single information I heard without even thinking about its credibility. Also, I would always take the first information I know as the most credible one. (Yups, quite "unsmart" of me)

For example, if someone said, "do you know that there are 30 days in February??" and I will be like "oh really! I didn't know" and start sharing it with a lot of people, ... till the point, people would tell me, "No, it is not true!" and then I will be in denial, "No! My friend said it! It is true!" (SUPER NAIVE! + Ego) But everything change when I met this person who has been the only person who made me a better person, N. N actually taught me one very important aspect in life - speak truth even though it hurts, if you don't know the truth, keep quiet. And frankly, it was so hard for me to adapt and change to this type of person. N and I fought a lot because I would say things without even finding out if it is true or not - N really hates it. And ever since then, if I ever had to find the truth in something, I would. And I would also use my bestfriend, Google, if I needed to do so! And if I ever feel so LAZY to do so, I just simply, think positive, think good, and keep quiet.

So when this Vivy-Pregnancy-Article-Hoohaa came along, I decided to see what was the BIG DEAL. I read the article and I thought, "wow! very motivating! I hope when I get pregnant and work in the future, I could be strong too.", I have always seen Vivy as an inspirational person because of her business - it is not easy to be UP THERE you know. And all I ever thought was good things about her until... tweets about her went viral - from how she wasn't a good boss in FV, how she is so 'naive' that she was not aware of her surroundings and employees health etc. that was when I felt SAD about the world. WHY CAN'T WE SAY NICE THINGS OR JUST KEEP QUIET? And I read back on my previous post - people will ALWAYS talk about others. Not directly but mostly indirectly. Internet being easily accessible, you can hide behind the screen and it makes people BRAVER to say whatever they like. Well, this was still 'okay' for me because I knew that would happen but what I notice that made me want to write this post was, I saw 6 thousand retweets on the tweets that pointed out all the 'WRONG' things Vivy said and she should not have said. SIX THOUSAND RETWEET GUYS

Wow. Then followed by additional tweets on how they agreed and so on... Wait, I don't say it as 'HATE' comments but how they sounded like was as if Vivy was such a terrible person and I felt so bad for her. BTW, there were really nice people who advised Vivy in a respectful manner.. but I wonder, why would you viral something so negative and not viral something more positive from the article?? Now, this made me thought back to my teen days, "were people just merely following what is trending/viral?"

This brings to my next point of the purpose of being gifted with a brain. (no kidding!) I realise why as a teen I was super naïve - 1. I didn't use my brain because I am just lazy 2. I didn't know I could actually use my brain to think and analyse the situation and make wise and intelligent decisions. Doesn't mean everyone is following the trend or crowd, you have to do it too! If you know something is wrong or if it is better to avoid it, don't do it then! Have your own firm believe on what is right and don't be afraid to speak out your thoughts - there could be truth in one's mind versus thousands of the same untruthful minds.

To be honest, if I haven't had met N, I would be amongst one of those six thousand people who retweeted that viral tweet and commenting that I agreed to it without even thinking what could go wrong. Did Vivy not have that intention people assumed? Did Vivy not actually meant what people assumed? Is Vivy just brave enough to share her thoughts without expecting any insensitive comments?

I would have been so ashamed of myself. How could I be such an insensitive person thinking it wouldn't reach Vivy? But look, the internet connects everyone from all over the world - she actually read those mean tweets.

I pray that all of us would be more sensitive to the surrounding especially saying something to someone we have never met before. I pray that all of us stop judging someone by what they say and rather take the positive of what they say. Advise them nicely if you could. ♥

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